Uplifting Thoughts

I have an amazing friend that has been there for me with this ordeal I go through each month lately and she sent me the most incredible poem the other day that I wouldn't allow myself to read until I really needed a pick me up. I guess today was that day as I went to the doctor to hear about what we are going to do next and I felt more upset and confused than ever. After Chris and I read this poem tonight, it gave us the validation that we have to continue even with all the heartache we have been through. Dana thank you so much for such an incredible and uplifting poem at this hard time in our lives. You have no idea how much we needed to read this tonight and reconfirm the amount of money, the heartache, and the tears that we endure each month. I have decided that I am going to frame this poem and keep it somewhere close so I can read it when I am down and need confirmation on life. Enjoy this poem and thanks again Dana..

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother:

Becoming A Mother:

There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.

I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited.
I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.

Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams. I will notice everything about my child. I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.

I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.

I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.

Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.

I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.

I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body. I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.

I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.

So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.

I listen.

And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.

I have learned to appreciate life.

Yes, I will be a wonderful mother.